Olya Tsybulska: “I am a living person and I am not going to seem perfect”

“The girl has grown up” – the singer and presenter says about herself Olya Tsybulska in an exclusive interview with Woman. In December, she will turn 35 years old. We asked Olya why she wanted to have plastic surgery, what kind of relationship she has with her husband and son, as well as what frank songs she will impress this year.

2020 has brought changes to many. What insights have you personally had?

My rhythm, which I was used to, became slower. But in show business, as soon as you stop, all the work done for many years goes down the drain. Therefore, during the quarantine, I understood that if I relaxed and panicked, then there would be nothing to please people. I tried to keep in touch with the audience: I entertained them, gave them cosmetics and dresses. By the way, I myself went in an evening dress and heels to the forest to watch the nightingale(smiles).

I did not feel a pause this year, but I definitely felt that I could not live without the stage. It is my oxygen and my vital necessity. My insight was that I was ready to sing even when I was hungry. I joke about this: when you are hungry, you are slimmer, and therefore you look better in the frame.

In addition, during the quarantine I managed to get closer to my family. I am grateful that my parents are my best friends, I always feel their support and can tell them anything. Finally, it is time to find out what movies they like, what books they read, what they live. This is a special energy that you can receive while mom and dad are around.

Photographer Tatiana Fortushnaya

Should an artist have a mission in difficult times?

It should be regardless of the circumstances! An artist without a mission is not an artist. My body, my face, my voice are my tools to fulfill the mission. This is something without which my art is impossible. Therefore, the artist must keep fit, not eat everything, constantly think about the appearance. The artist for a moment gives the feeling of an ideal life. While the song is playing, we give people the opportunity to touch the dreams that live in their heads. When I go on stage, I leave my bad mood, low blood pressure and all my life experiences behind the scenes. Therefore, the stage is a piece of my ideal world. As a public person, I feel responsible. Everything I say and broadcast can influence people. It is important to know what you mean. Today’s Olya Tsybulska is about emotion: as long as you feel, you are alive.

How has Olya Tsybulska changed since she just started her way in show business?

I became a cat – I do as I want. This cat sits, lies down, sleeps where it wants. It does not try to adjust to social standards, but dictates the rules of the game.

I came from a small town to the capital. It is not an easy city. People who had already lived in it tried to find a thousand complexes and shortcomings in me. At some point it seemed that it was necessary to change a lot, but in fact it was necessary not to lose yourself. The kitten became a cat. And now I will not change to the world, but it will change to me. I extract from life, as from a tube of toothpaste, the maximum amount of emotions and bathe in them. This is my secret of youth.

How do you react to age-related changes?

I am not afraid to grow old. Wrinkles appear, but they do not take away charisma and beauty. Of course, when I saw the first wrinkles, I was scared, because I could not influence them in any way. I began to criticize myself that I don’t go to the beautician so often, and I do sports when I am in the mood. Then I looked closely and saw a cool girl. There is so much inside it. She does not need to build anything logically, but just to live. And wrinkles are from laughter and joy. We need to help ourselves: to be honest, to fully accept and love ourselves, and one gray hair should not be torn. The most precious person you have is yourself. Why not establish a relationship with this person?

Do you think that striving to change is the way to yourself?

I used to read a lot of biographical books and thought that I could read a recipe: what to eat to lose weight, what to watch to change something in my head. But there is no such magic pill. All changes in you happen step by step. Sometimes you move forward, but you don’t feel it. You have set a goal, but you do not notice any concrete changes yet. If you do not betray your idea, later you will see a completely different person in the mirror. You start to respect this person, to let him be weak, to choose the right people around, to live here and now. This does not happen quickly. I thought that one day my breasts would grow, but it did not happen(laughs). I also thought that one magical situation would change everything. Probably, changes are a daily internal work.

“Mom, I want you to never grow old” – the words of 5-year-old son Nestor. You planned to have plastic surgery, but did not dare. What exactly did you want to do and why did you change your mind?

When I gave birth to a child, I saw how my body was changing. I was afraid of losing my career. I held a New Year’s corporate party with Grisha Reshetnik five days before the birth, and two weeks later I went on TV. I also wanted to continue to please the man I sleep with. I found a thousand flaws in myself, and most importantly – I decided to make breasts. After giving birth, she came to her husband and said: “If you are my husband, you will pay for the operation”. To this he replied: “Since I’m crying, let’s make breasts on the back, because everything suits me in front.” I cried then and stopped looking for flaws in myself.

If we talk about the relationship with your husband, how often does he compliment you?

In fact, the language of love is different for everyone. Someone will feel loved if they write about it on Instagram in the morning. For me, the manifestation of love is different: when I come tired from a concert, and my husband just washes my feet. He can ask nothing, silently make an Americano and give me time to rest. For me, love is accidentally finding tickets to a Celine Dion show in a drawer or getting an instrument I dreamed of. We write so much on the Internet that words seem to lose their power. It is better to keep silent, but he does. And let others say compliments to make the man jealous.

You do not speak publicly about your husband, do not post photos of you together. Why did you choose this position?

I had a desire to show my husband to everyone 500 times, but he does not want it. I am tired of answering the question: “Why am I hiding my husband?” I don’t cover him with a tablecloth in restaurants, he doesn’t run away when supporters come up to me – I just don’t put up photos with him. I have so many songs, ideas, projects, so there is something to talk about. Let the personal remain personal. A lot is done publicly, and when I have my own secret, I get high. It’s nice to have something just for two.

You were attributed an affair with both Dzidzio and Nikita Dobrynin. How do you feel about it?

Any man who appears near me automatically becomes the father of my son. I am already used to it.

Do you believe in friendship between a man and a woman?

Yes, I do. I have more men than women among my friends. Friendship between a man and a woman is possible when there was no sex.

Your love story with your husband began at school. How did you manage not to lose your feelings for so many years?

During this time we were lost for many years. There was a period when everyone was making their career and we did not communicate at all. One day I decided to break up because I went to Kyiv. I did not believe in long distance relationships and saw how much ambition each of us had. Then self-realization was in the first place for me. But when you meet true love, you can’t run away from it. After 6 years I received a handwritten letter from him – then I felt the same as at our first meeting. Later we flew to Paris, and there the fears about how to build a career and get married at the same time disappeared. It became clear to me that it was my husband. If a woman’s head is put in order, it is enchanting!

True love can only be explained this way: when you meet your man, you want to have a child with him. There is a desire to make this world wider and better.

Photographer Tatiana Fortushnaya

Very often adults learn from their children. What does Nestor teach you?

Nestor teaches me to live again. Eat an apple and think how delicious it is. My son teaches me courage, although I remind him that courage is the most dangerous weapon. It is a subtle tool that helps you to be where you want and say what you want. A child cannot deceive you. If I play Nestor a demo of my song and he doesn’t like it, he will tell me honestly.

Who is the son more like?

The man says that his son is similar to him in talents and beauty, but capricious like his mother. When a person comes into this world, he has everything. The task of parents is not to spoil anything and to hear the child. Nestor is very creative. And this is a challenge for me as a mother. Now he leans towards music. Next year Nestor will go to school, and we are considering sending him to a creative school instead of a standard one.

Would you like to add to your family?

Children are not fish or hamsters, you can not just want to have them. I believe that we are born at a certain moment and in the right place. If heaven wants me to become a mother for someone else, the child will knock in this world when it is necessary. I have never used any contraception to protect myself from pregnancy.

I do not plan my life in such a way. It used to be fashionable to watch the movie “The Secret” and make visualization boards. It didn’t work out for me: the board fell on me twice, and then I threw it away. I will not name the brand of car I want or the specific amount of money I need. On an emotional level, I have a feeling of experiencing the right moments. And all my life I go to these emotions. I know what psychological state I will be in and what fears I will have.

This year you are 35 and you are releasing an album for the first time. How do you feel?

It’s very scary to release an album. Until some moment it seemed to me that someone else can write a song brilliantly, but not me. When I started making music, many authors sent me songs. I listened to them and realized that it is far from Mozart, and I can definitely do no worse. Thanks to perfectionism, I constantly analyze music and approach each release very responsibly. If a song doesn’t become a hit like “Dress near” or “Waiting. This”, it hurts me. All my songs are frank stories. I believe that this is the only way they can live in people. The album will also be very frank, because there is a lot of personal. I do not even know what will happen after it sounds. I take everything that is inside and put it into music.

Photographer Marta Syrko

For many years you have been the host of the M1 Music Awards, “Golden Firebird”. Is it important for you to be recognized at music awards as a singer?

I will not lie that it does not matter. It is like being accepted into the herd by a professional party. When you work all year round, invest all your money, strength and health, it is nice to get a reward. But the success of an artist is not measured by awards. Success is determined by applause and the words “can I take a picture with you”. You can’t buy people’s love.

How often do you refuse fans when they ask to take a photo with you?

I am a living person and I am not going to seem better than I am. If I am in a good mood today and I like myself, I will take a photo. If I stand in a supermarket and choose eggs, I will refuse. Sometimes after an emotional concert I can sign autographs and take selfies to the last.

Photographer Tatiana Fortushnaya

Olya, name the three most important events in your life

I gave birth to a son, met Jijo and became a pussy.

Author: Natalia Filon

Photo: press service.