Alina Shamanskaya: “I am a happy woman who has received two marriage proposals from the man I love!”
В the expanse of Instagram of a lot of bloggers, who show their lives. Among them stands out Alina Shamanskaya – a girl who captivated the audience with her straightforwardness, modern approach to raising a child, as well as the ability to remain a self-sufficient person in any situation. Famous blogger, happy mother, a successful businesswoman Alina Shamanskaya exclusively for Woman Magazine talked about the disadvantages of blogging, family life and the ideal wedding.
Now every other person dreams of becoming a blogger. Tell us about the disadvantages of this type of activity.
There are no flaws! It’s part of my life. I just can’t stop shooting stories, if I don’t do it I’m not comfortable. I long ago lost the “this to show/don’t show, this to say/don’t say” barriers! I just live and push the record button to an audience of thousands. Because they’re interested. And I’m thrilled that so many people are interested in my life. It’s very energizing and motivating not to give up even in the worst situations. I want them to be proud of me and to repeat my successes, and not to be disillusioned with domesticity.
Those who pretend to be something they are not will have difficulties! It’s very hard to stick to the holier-than-thou image, to turn off the camera and reach for a cigarette and alcohol with a trembling hand. If I smoked, my subscribers would know about it. I don’t see the point in trying to seem better than you are, you have to strive to be better for yourself!
It is difficult for those people who set themselves the goal of “becoming famous and rich. And they don’t ask themselves the question, “What do I want to be? What am I good at and what can I share with people? The goal – to make money on your name as a nobody – is obviously a failure! And that’s the majority of people like that.
How do you feel about bloggers who get likes and followers?
I despise those who, out of an intense thirst for fame, buy and scam subscribers, comments and likes! It’s self-delusion that ruins the reputation of honest bloggers. Create yourself! Your identity! Not fake page activity. It’s just that there are such uniquenesses who finalize statistics in Photoshop and send them to advertisers. I think this is pure fraud.
Are there times when you want to take a break from your Instagram audience and not access this social network at all for a few days?
Sometimes I just need a break from the phone. Because the emotional strain is enormous. And then I dream of getting on a plane and flying to the ocean! But, after 2 minutes I catch myself thinking, “wow, what cool pics and stories will be from there. Okay, you can safely diagnose me as an insta addict. I agree with that. But, I refuse treatment.
You have a very active life stance, what advice would you give to moms who get caught up in their child’s life, completely forgetting about their own?
Getting caught up in the life of a child is easy! It’s easy to be miserable! But being happy is a colossal job. Most mothers, after having a baby, find inner peace: “this is the meaning of my life, I can not make a career and not do any dream job.
But, there is one nuance that such mothers should be aware of. When children grow up, they should not devote all their time to their mother and idolize her just because she laid her life at his feet! This investment is likely to fail. There are exceptions – mama’s boys. But this is not the best prospect, because such a man will not make his wife happy…the reasons, probably everyone knows. When the child grows up, he will ask: “Mom, who are you?” and you will have no choice but to answer, “I am your mother, I have devoted my life to you.” That’s why I don’t sit and pray for my child. Yes! He is the most important thing in my life and that is why I will be not only the coolest mom for him, but also the most successful person in my country!
There are a lot of jokes about insta-moms, how do you feel about this display of humor?
I haven’t heard a single joke about insta-moms. Share? (smiling – ed.).
There is a stereotype that after marriage all romance disappears from a relationship. How often do you and your spouse spend time together? Which romantic evening was the most memorable?
I am a happy woman. My husband is very generous with his displays of affection and tenderness. We have warm weasel words on a regular basis. Hugs and kisses, too. I’m very glad it’s him, not me, who sets the mood in our family. I think that’s why our Arthur is growing up to be such a kind and gentle boy who loves hugs and kisses. He looks at us and repeats.
Relationships change with the arrival of a child, unequivocally. Genesis spoils and kills all romance! That’s why I haven’t known what a general cleaning, washing the floor and furniture is for six months. I hired a domestic helper who takes care of my nerves and cleans twice a week.
I’ll tell you honestly, I really like living with my husband. I’m going to leave out all the domestic nuances of a scattered sock and an unmade bed (everyone has that)…I’m talking about energy. I like lying next to him and watching TV or movies, I like waking up, I like the way he smells and looks, I like listening to his stories and discussions until 3 a.m…I look at him and realize that I am happy. That is my strength. I feel the most beautiful, fully protected and free with my husband. Otherwise, I wouldn’t have anything to charge and inspire about 130,000 people every day!
You and your husband are public people, does that interfere with the relationship?
Publicity doesn’t get in the way of anything. I like it very much. We are never approached by people with aggression! They come up with smiles, compliments, and admiration, and it’s very gratifying and energizing.
Arthur is a child of the Z-generation. Do you notice his predilections for gadgets and technology? In your opinion, at what age should you teach your son technology, without which you can no longer imagine life?
I don’t really like the story of a child sitting with a tablet forever! He eats and rides quietly in the car solely to cartoons. It’s not like that with us. And I try as much as possible to delay his acquaintance with gadgets. Sometimes I turn on his “blue tractor” cartoon-hypnosis, but we use it only in extreme and hopeless situations. I play cartoons on TV as a background while I cook or work. But he doesn’t pay much attention to them; he’d rather pick at his toys and cars. In short, we have a golden child. (laughs – ed.)
What special character traits do you notice in your son?
Kindness comes first. Communicability! He goes to everyone who smiles at him. He is very cheerful and upbeat.
You got married while you were already pregnant. Are you planning to have the big wedding that girls usually dream of?
I am a happy woman who has received two marriage proposals from the man she loves! One public, and the other in an intimate setting when the baby was over a year old. Both proposals were with a ring and from the heart. I really want to wear a white dress! The husband promised to arrange a wedding ceremony on his own somewhere on the islands. I’m waiting!
What is the “perfect wedding” for you?
The perfect wedding is when two people in love, and around them alive and well relatives! They all dance to live renditions of the stars, have fun, eat delicious food and cheer wildly for the newlyweds. We’ll never have a wedding like this again. Without my precious mommy, it’s impossible. Now I want an oceanfront wedding ceremony just for two people. Or for three, with a son.
Would you like to have more children?
Of course! Babies are cool, and I want a big family. Three kids is the perfect picture for me. I have two siblings, and I now realize that this is my treasure and wealth. A large and close-knit family is happiness!
In your experience, what do you think a modern mom should be like?
Happy, beautiful, self-sufficient, stylish, bold and free from the opinions of others!
Photo: courtesy of Alina Shamanskaya
Journalist: Maria Holotiy