How to raise a boy during the war: the advice of a psychologist
Dmytro Karpachev
Ukrainian soldiers protect us every day from the Russians, for whom human life is not a value. Our soldiers are an example for the youth and a symbol of indomitability for each of us. How to instill the same courage in little boys – psychologist Dmytro Karpachev shared his opinion in the section of the STB daily digest “Everything will be fine” – “Help of a psychologist” .
The heroine of the issue was the participant of “Supermama”-4 Svitlana from Dnipro. The woman divorced her husband and now lives with her son. During the war, she thought about whether it was possible to teach her 9-year-old son to be a real man, using the example of the Ukrainian military. Here is what psychologist Dmytro Karpachev says:
Will the war help to raise the boy as a real man
- War is not the time to demand something from children. It is necessary to show by example what parents should be like.
- Instill confidence in your children that under any circumstances everything will be fine and you will overcome everything.
- Nothing motivates children to play sports like a parent’s own example.
- Never forbid a child to be afraid, because fear is natural.
- Balance and calmness are acquired through experience.
- It is categorically impossible to transfer responsibility for the condition of adults to children.
- Treating a child as an adult is worthwhile only from the point of view of respect for him and his opinion.
- If you accustom your son to male duties and actions, then tell him about female duties as well.
- Cultivate in children not obedience, but intelligence. It will be more useful in adult life.
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